Letting Go of Expectations
Up until recently, I have held high expectations of people in my life. The closer my perceived relationship, the higher my expectations. Therefore, with my family, my spouse, co-workers, and even friends, I expected them to think and act like I would in similar situations. What I have learned is that my expectations get in the way of enjoying the people I'm with, because I am expecting. I am looking into the future with my expectations of their actions, which leaves a lot of room for disappointment, and surprise when these unrealistic expectations are not met. Rarely would anybody reach my level of expectation, so I would hold onto that disappointment, yet still expect a different outcome the next time. Einstein defines insanity as "doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result." I am not proud of who I was, as I brought to each conversation the disappointment of the past and high expectations of the future, ultimately cutting off my ability I to have loving relationships. It has taken major events with people I love to help me realize my insanity.
Today, as I let go of expectations, I let go of looking to the future, which has opened up my ability to enjoy the unique moments that are happening in front of me. As I enjoy the present, I am better able to understand the person with empathy, sympathy, an open heart, and an open mind. I am wholly present in the moment, paying attention to the person, with the intention of opening myself to a loving relationship. I am no longer tied to the disappointment of the past and an unrealistic future.
Gratitude
It was devastating being hurt by the ones I love, but the hurt was necessary to recognize my insanity, and to gain the understanding that I needed to let go of my expectations. With extreme gratitude, I am grateful to these people in my life. I am thankful for the unique moments happening now, and realize my relationships will never the be the way they were before. I am appreciative of all the people in my life who make me a better person, who challenge my perceptions of reality, and encourage me to grow. Thank you.
As today is Thanksgiving Eve here in the States, I ask you take a moment to reflect on the expectations that are holding you back from expressing authentic gratitude to the people that are gracious enough to be in your life. Tomorrow, with your new freedom, enjoy the uniqueness offered by each moment.
